As I speak to young parents during and after the seminars I conduct I have come to realise that most of the parents wants that fun and joy back in the relationship with their children. However they are unsure what to do as they are largely dictated by how most others are bringing up their children. Though at times it does not feel the right thing to do yet they continue with it. There is a great fear of standing out and doing things differently even if they feel that it is a right thing to do. I wonder why our young have so little conviction in their parenting.
Parenting never has been and never ever will be ‘one size fits all’. Every situation and every child is different. Every child at different stages of growing up needs different kind of parenting. So why look all around constantly for solutions. What do you feel as a parent? Does it fit into your style of parenting? Is it according to you the right way for your child? Is it harming your child in any way – physically but more importantly emotionally, then refrain. If you go by your gut feeling and if your child’s well being is what is driving you – every parent is working towards the betterment of their child – you will do the right thing. Do not forget to consider your child’s feelings.
Do you feel there is something missing in your relationship with your children? Are you unhappy about how things are going on with you and your child? Do you every night promise yourself that you will try your best to deal with patience with your children only to lose it at the very first provocation? What then is the solution? How do you bring that joy, that happiness in your relationship? There are a few simple steps that you need to take as a family. If you are really troubled and are looking for a change you need to spearhead the change and own it. Even if you feel like giving up DON’T! Do not expect things to change at once. Be Patient. The changes will be seen first very subtly and then more easily, more prominently. Continue doing what you believe is good for the relationship and you will see results. Patience and consistency will go a long way in bringing that change.
Here are a few tips to get you started
Listen in to what Dr. Gordon Neufeld – a development psychologist has tosay.